5 Questions Christian Women Are Googling About Sex (And What God Actually Says)
12 // She’s Not Asking Her Pastor—She’s Asking Google: 5 Things Christian Women Are Too Afraid to Say Out Loud
You're not broken for Googling questions about sex and intimacy—you're brave. If no one else is talking about it, then we will. God's not blushing, and He’s not silent either.
We’re Ripping Off the Shame Today
Friend, let’s just call it: You’re doing all the right things. You love Jesus, you love your husband, and you want a Christ-centered marriage. So why are you still lying in bed at night, phone in hand, Googling stuff like, “Is it okay to want sex more than my husband?” or “Why don’t I enjoy it?”
It’s not because you’re rebellious. It’s because no one is talking about this in real life—not at your church, not in your Bible study, maybe not even in your marriage.
So you Google. Because she doesn’t flinch when you ask the hard stuff.
But here's the thing: you're not alone. And you're definitely not disqualified by your questions. You’re just a woman—a daughter of God—trying to figure out what freedom actually looks like in your marriage.
Let’s rip off the shame and get into the five biggest questions Christian women are Googling in secret… and what God really says about them.
1. Is It Okay That I Want Sex More Than My Husband?
Short answer: YES.
Long answer: Somewhere along the way, we got told that men are the ones with the strong sex drives and women are the keepers of morality and control. So when your desire outpaces his, it can feel… off. Like something must be broken.
But your desire isn’t dirty—it’s divine.
Hormones, stress, kids, and life circumstances all shift desire. And maybe—just maybe—it’s time for a deeper conversation and a hormone check, not a shame spiral.
👉 Quick Truths:
There’s no “normal” sex drive—just yours and his.
God gave you your desire on purpose.
You’re not too much. You’re human.
2. Why Don’t I Enjoy Sex?
Oof. This one is tough to admit. But it’s so real.
If you’ve never been taught about your body, or if you’ve carried shame from your past (or both), it’s no surprise that sex might feel more like duty than delight. Add to that the “good girls don’t…” messaging and it’s no wonder you’re confused or disconnected.
But guess what? God designed your body with twice as many pleasure points as your husband's. You were made for mutual enjoyment. Not silence. Not shame.
👉 Quick Truths:
Shame blocks pleasure.
Your body was fearfully and wonderfully made for connection.
Your pleasure matters—to God, and to your marriage.
3. How Do I Get Over My Past?
This one hits deep. Maybe you weren’t a virgin when you got married. Maybe there was abuse, addiction, abortion. Whatever your story—hear this loud and clear:
You are not the sum of your past.
The cross didn’t just cover your pretty parts. It covered the whole you. The hidden stuff. The stuff you think disqualifies you. Jesus sees it, covered it, and still calls you redeemed.
👉 Quick Truths:
Shame was never your permanent sentence.
Psalm 103 says He removes your sins as far as the east is from the west.
If you’re in Christ, you are fully redeemed. Period.
4. What Does the Bible Actually Say About Sex?
Here’s the beautiful truth: the Bible is not silent about sex. It just doesn’t come with a bullet-pointed checklist. It’s not crass—it’s poetic, sacred, and real (Song of Solomon, anyone?).
Sex isn’t just about permission or prohibition. It’s about connection. And you don’t need Google to tell you what’s allowed. You need the Word, the Spirit, and yes—your husband.
👉 Quick Truths:
Sex is sacred, not shameful.
God isn’t anti-pleasure—He’s pro-intimacy.
Ask God first. Then invite your husband into the conversation.
5. How Do I Talk to My Husband About What I Want?
This one’s vulnerable. Even for me.
Maybe you’ve tried. Maybe you’ve been met with silence, defensiveness, or your own fear. So you stay quiet, thinking it’s easier.
But intimacy can’t grow where honesty is missing.
You don’t need to give a TED Talk. Just start with curiosity. “Can I share something that’s been on my heart?” or “Can I tell you something I’ve been learning about myself?”
And if the words won’t come out? Write it down. Pray over it. Let God go first.
👉 Quick Truths:
Vulnerability is risky—but it's also holy.
Intimacy starts with honesty.
God cares about every detail. Invite Him into this.
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Final Word
If this made you pause, tear up, or just feel a little more seen—then friend, this journey is for you. You don’t have to stay stuck. You don’t have to figure it all out on your own.
Freedom starts with one brave step.
Love you, friend.
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