Nothing Is Too Hard for God: A Raw Invitation to Rip Off Shame and Walk in Freedom

9 // Nothing Is Too Hard for God: Rip Off Shame + Find Freedom in The Collective [solo rip]

Shame will always whisper, “You're too far gone,” but God shouts, “Nothing is too hard for Me.” If you've felt like your story is too broken or your marriage too dry, this is your invitation to rip off the shame and walk in truth—because freedom starts with surrender.

When You’re Limping Through Marriage and No One Knows…

Let’s be real: some days feel too hard, too heavy, and too hopeless. Especially when it comes to intimacy, sex, and the parts of marriage no one’s talking about in Bible study. If you’ve ever thought:

• “Something’s missing in my marriage…”

• “I don’t even know how to want sex, let alone enjoy it.”

• “I’m too messed up from my past to be fully present now…”

Friend, you’re not alone—and you’re not too far gone. This isn’t just a podcast episode, this is a holy wake-up call. The kind that reminds you of one powerful truth:

“Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for Me?” — Jeremiah 32:27

Let That Sink In: Nothing Is Too Hard

That shame you carry like a second skin?
That disconnection in your marriage?
The trauma you’ve buried deep or the budget that feels impossible?

Not one of those things is too hard for God. Not a single one.

And if Jeremiah—imprisoned and surrounded by destruction—could believe that God still had a plan to restore what looked too far gone, then so can you. Because this isn’t about perfection, it’s about participation. It's about walking in the healing that only Jesus can bring—one surrendered step at a time.

Introducing: Rip It Off, The Collective

What started as a stirring in Michelle's heart has become a sacred space off social media, hosted on Voxer—a walkie-talkie style app where women can talk real about sex, shame, marriage, and intimacy.

Inside the Collective, You’ll Find:

• 🔥 Raw, voice-driven connection (anonymity-friendly but deeply personal)

• 🎙️ Episode deep dives with Q&As for deeper healing

• 💬 Safe space for real talk about the things most Christians shy away from

• 🙏 Prayer, encouragement, and community with women who get it

• 🫶 Ongoing support as you walk through your journey—not alone, but shoulder-to-shoulder

You’ll hear voices of women who are also limping, also healing, and also choosing to keep showing up.

Let’s Break This Down

Here’s your invitation to stop hiding:

• You’re not the only one who feels disconnected from your body or your spouse.

• You’re not the only one who wonders, “Will I ever want sex again?”

• You’re not the only one carrying sexual shame from the past.

💡 But you are one decision away from joining a space where healing gets real.

Takeaways to Tuck in Your Heart

• God’s not done with you. Not your story. Not your marriage. Not your healing.

• Healing isn’t a one-and-done. It’s a constant surrender.

• Community matters. Freedom is found in connection, not isolation.

• You’re not too late. You haven’t missed your shot at intimacy, wholeness, or love.

• Shame has no place here. Not with Jesus. Not in this Collective.

Ready to Rip Off the Shame?

It’s time to step out of hiding and into healing.

💌 Join Rip It Off: The Collective → bit.ly/ripitoffcollective
No pressure. No performance. Just presence. Just women walking together toward the God who makes all things possible.

“With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” — Matthew 19:26

Related Episodes & Resources

📖 Verse Study: Jeremiah 32:17 & 27, Isaiah 64:8, Matthew 19:26
📥 Free Resource: Download the “13 Types of Intimacy” PDF

Let’s surrender again today. Because the God of all flesh isn’t overwhelmed by your wounds—and He certainly isn’t finished writing your story.

Love you, friend. Let’s rip it off together. 💗

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When Sex Feels Like a Chore: How Christian Moms Can Reclaim Intimacy in the Chaos of Motherhood

8 // Why Christian Wives Feel Disconnected (and What No One's Saying About Sex) [ft Elyse Rooney]

Sex isn’t a chore—it’s a sacred connection. But when motherhood feels like survival mode, intimacy can quickly slide into the “leftovers” category. If you’ve ever felt like sex is just another box to check, this one’s for you.

Let’s Talk About the Unspoken: Sex and Seasons

We get it—marriage, motherhood, and sex are a whole lot messier than the church is talking about. As Elyse Rooney shared in this episode, the seasons of marriage change constantly. From honeymoon highs to toddler chaos, intimacy doesn’t always look like it did in year one—and that’s normal.

But here’s the truth: just because it’s normal doesn’t mean we settle for disconnection.

What the Church Isn’t Saying Loud Enough:

• Intimacy evolves with the seasons—and that's not a failure, it's growth.

• Sex isn’t just physical; it’s spiritual, emotional, and deeply bonding.

• Christian women need space to talk about desire, disconnection, and healing without shame.

When You’re Tired, Touched-Out, and Tempted to Tune Out

You love your husband. But when the laundry pile’s high, the kids are cranky, and your energy is gone by 8 p.m., sex can feel like a duty rather than a desire.

Real Talk From Elyse:

“I started seeing sex like a task—right up there with mopping floors. But God gently shifted my mindset: I don’t have to do this; I get to connect with my husband in a way no one else can.”

Oof. That hits. And it’s the shift we all need.

So How Do We Redirect When the Connection Feels Off?

Here’s the gold: Intimacy doesn’t just happen. It’s cultivated—often intentionally—in the small, unsexy, everyday moments.

5 Intentional Ways to Reignite Intimacy (Even With Little Kids):

• ✅ Schedule it. Yes, it sounds unromantic. But it works. Put it on the calendar, create margin, and protect that time.

• ✅ Shift your mindset. Move from obligation to opportunity. You get to love him in a way no one else can.

• ✅ Communicate openly. Be honest—even if you’re exhausted or unsure how to say it. Vulnerability is intimacy.

• ✅ Flirt and have fun. Remember what made you laugh together. Go to the park. Ride the “flying fox.” (Americans, think zip line!)

• ✅ Pray together. Spiritual intimacy builds the foundation for emotional and physical connection. Don’t skip it.

Affirming His Masculinity Isn’t Worldly—It’s Biblical

Let’s not forget: the enemy is after our husbands too. And when we hold back intimacy out of resentment, exhaustion, or silence, it lands as rejection—even if that’s not our intention.

You, dear sister, are the only one who can affirm your husband’s sexual masculinity in a godly, grace-filled way.

Let that sink in.

“I get to be the one who sees the softest, most vulnerable part of him. What a privilege.” — Elyse

Healing Shame and Embracing Connection

If sex has ever felt shameful, complicated, or emotionally loaded—you’re not alone. But you’re also not stuck. God designed this part of marriage for joy, pleasure, unity, and holiness.

You can heal. You can rebuild. You can grow in biblical intimacy, even in the chaos of motherhood.

Ready to Go Deeper? Grab the Freebie: "13 Types of Intimacy Every Christian Marriage Needs"

Don't let disconnection become your default. There’s more than just one way to connect with your husband—and this free resource will show you exactly how.

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Links & Resources from This Episode

• 🎙 Christian Motherhood Conversations Podcast (formerly The Wholesome Mama Show)

• 📱 Follow Elyse Rooney on Instagram: @wholesomemama

• ❤️ Mentioned Resource: Francie Winslow, Heaven in Your Home Podcast

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Why Christian Women Are Done Being Silent About Sex (And You Should Be Too)

7 // The Good Girl’s Guide to Reclaiming Sex, Desire & The *M* Word [ft. Carlie Palmer-Webb]

We’ve spent decades whispering about something God called good. It’s time to rip off the shame, rewrite the narrative, and reclaim biblical intimacy without apology.

Let’s Talk About Sex—and Not in Whispers

You know that hush-hush vibe Christian women often carry when it comes to sex? Yeah, that needs to go. In this raw, real, and refreshingly honest episode of RIP IT OFF, Michelle Castro sits down with Carlie Palmer-Webb—aka The Christian Sex Educator—to unpack the shame, myths, and silence we've been handed…and why it’s time to trade them for truth.

Because here’s the deal: God didn’t design sex as a burden or a service. He designed it as a gift—pleasurable, connecting, sacred. And yet, so many Christian women feel disqualified from that joy because of what they weren’t taught (or what they were taught wrong).

Let’s change that. Today.

Meet Carlie Palmer-Webb: Breaking Silence with Holy Boldness

Carlie never planned to become a Christian sex educator. Like many of us, she grew up sheltered, with virtually no real sexual education—and zero context for pleasure or desire. But after diving into human development and sexuality studies, she couldn’t unsee what God was showing her: Christians are starving for truth in this area. So she’s answering the call.

Her mission? To provide shame-free sex education for Christians in every life stage—whether you're 19, 39, single, married, or figuring things out post-trauma.

Truth Bombs That Need to Be Heard

💥 Sex isn’t just for your husband.

The Church has often made women feel like sex is something we give to our husbands as an act of service—and that’s it. But God didn’t design it to be one-sided. He gave women bodies capable of immense pleasure (hello, clitoris with more nerve endings than the male counterpart!). That wasn’t an accident—it was on purpose, and it was called good.

💥 You don’t become “sexual” when you get married.

Sexuality isn’t a switch flipped on your wedding night. You’re a sexual being now, because God made you that way. Suppressing that truth creates shame. Embracing it—even in singleness—is part of understanding who you are and how God designed you.

💥 Lust and desire aren’t the same thing.

Desire is God-given. Lust is when we use that desire selfishly, without love or connection. The two are not synonymous—and confusing them leads to shame, guilt, and avoidance of something beautiful.

Let’s Talk About Masturbation (Yep, We’re Going There)

The Bible doesn’t directly talk about it, which means thoughtful, Spirit-led discernment is essential. Carlie and Michelle both lean toward this truth: sex is designed to be relational, not solo. That said, shame-free exploration—especially in marriage—can be incredibly helpful for women learning what brings them pleasure.

And let’s be real: if a tool like a vibrator helps you experience more connection and joy with your spouse? That’s not taboo. That’s wisdom. It’s all about your heart.

How to Embrace Your Sexuality as a Christian Woman

Carlie offers a helpful reframe: embracing your sexuality is a lot like embracing any God-given gift. It starts with gratitude, grows through learning, and shines when it's used in alignment with God’s purposes.

You don’t have to prove your sexuality to anyone. You don’t have to dress a certain way. You don’t have to flaunt anything.

You can learn, heal, grow, and connect in ways that are deeply modest and deeply holy—all at the same time.

Let’s Be Clear About the Real Enemy

Sex is good. God said so. But the enemy loves to twist what’s holy into something shameful. If he can wedge division between you and your husband in the bedroom, he’s already halfway to destroying your marriage.

You’re not imagining it—there is a spiritual battle happening. But the One who created sex is bigger than the one who wants to distort it. And He’s inviting you to come back to His design, with open hands and an open heart.

Key Takeaways:

• Sex isn’t a man’s reward—it’s mutual, beautiful, and meant for both.

• You are a sexual being before marriage, and that’s not sinful—it’s divine design.

• Understanding the difference between lust and desire is crucial to healing shame.

• Masturbation requires prayerful discernment—but shame has no place in the conversation.

• Vibrators, tools, and exploration can be incredible assets in marriage when used for connection, not escape.

• There is no part of your sexuality that God is afraid to talk about with you.

💌 Want to Deepen Intimacy in Every Area of Your Marriage?

Download our free guide:
👉 13 Types of Intimacy Every Christian Couple Needs
It’s not just about sex—it’s about connection, healing, and getting back to us.

🎧 Resources & Episode Links:

• Visit Carlie’s site: TheChristianSexEducator.com

• Follow Carlie on Instagram: @thechristiansexeducator

• Listen to this episode on: RIP IT OFF Podcast

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From “Have To” to “Get To”: Shifting the Mindset Around Sex in Christian Marriage

6 // Lies Christian Wives Believe About S*x + God’s Design for Intimacy [ft. Alisha Michaelson]

Sex was never meant to be a chore on your to-do list. It's a gift from God—designed for connection, healing, and delight between husband and wife. But to experience the richness of that gift, we've got to shed the lies we’ve believed for far too long.

Let’s Be Honest: You’ve Been Lied To

Somewhere along the way, many of us were told that sex in marriage is about duty—something we owe our husbands, a checkbox on the wifely task list. Whether it was the well-meaning woman in premarital counseling or cultural messages wrapped in shame and silence, the lie landed hard: the answer is always yes, and that’s all you need to know.

But here's the truth: God never designed sex to be duty-bound. He created it for delight, for unity, for healing, and for oneness. And we’re not about to keep quiet about that.

Real Talk with Alisha: Breaking the Shame Cycle

In this heart-to-heart episode of Rip It Off, Michelle Castro invites her real-life friend Alisha Michaelson to rip off the cultural and religious lies that have wrapped sex in shame and silence.

What makes this convo different? It’s honest. It’s hilarious. And it’s dripping in truth and grace.

Here’s the truth bomb Alisha drops early on:

“I spent 10-15 years of my marriage thinking the answer was just always yes—without ever knowing why. But sex isn't a checklist. It's a gift.”

3 Lies We Need to Rip Off Right Now

Lie #1: Sex Should Look Like the Movies

Rom-coms gave us the fantasy of steamy showers and spontaneous passion 24/7. Real life? You're 5'1", the water's in your face, and you're drowning—not turned on.

Lie #2: Men Always Want Sex & Women Just Have to Keep Up

This one’s toxic. Not only is it inaccurate, it trains women to view sex as an obligation and trains men to expect performance, not connection. God designed mutual desire and intimacy that grows with understanding, not assumption.

Lie #3: You Can Fix Everything With More Sex

Can sex heal wounds? Yes. But not without addressing deeper heart issues. If you're dealing with trauma, infidelity, or lack of trust—get help. Sex isn’t a bandaid. It’s a bond—but only when built on safety and connection.

Reframing Intimacy: From “Have To” to “Get To”

God didn’t just create sex for procreation—He made it for connection. And when we start shifting from I have to to I get to, intimacy becomes a joy, not a job.

💬 “The more you connect, the more you crave. Just like time with the Lord. It’s not about duty—it’s about delight.” — Alisha

Here’s the mindset shift:

• From “This is my wifely obligation” → To “This is a gift we get to enjoy together”

• From “He needs it” → To “We need this connection”

• From “This is awkward” → To “This is sacred”

Tangible Takeaways

• 💡 Study your spouse. Keep being a student. What lit them up at 25 may have changed by 40—and that’s beautiful.

• 🧠 Change the narrative. Start asking: “What does this produce in our marriage?” instead of “What do I have to do?”

• 🛑 Don’t weaponize sex. It’s not for manipulation, control, or avoidance. It’s for communion.

• 🙏 Pray about it. Invite God into your sex life. He’s not weirded out—He designed it.

Sister, Here’s Your Permission Slip

If you’ve been stuck in shame, resentment, confusion—or just sheer exhaustion—this is your permission slip to stop performing and start pursuing deeper connection. Not just physical. Emotional. Spiritual. Real.

You get to enjoy sex. You get to pursue intimacy. You get to be fully known—and deeply loved.

And guess what? You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out by yourself.

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Let’s stop settling for half-hearted connection and pursue the fullness of oneness God designed for us.

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Healing Shame and Restoring Intimacy: A Story of Redemption After Abortion

3 // Healing After Abortion: From Shame to Redemption [ft. Brittany Poppe]

Your past doesn’t get the final say—God’s redemption does. Even the deepest wounds and biggest regrets can be redeemed, restored, and used for His glory—yes, even that one.

When Brittany Poppe shared her story, it was raw, redemptive, and radically freeing. As a wife, mom, and pro-life ministry leader, Brittany bravely opens up about her journey from abortion at 17 to healing, hope, and God-glorifying intimacy in her marriage.

Let me tell you—this conversation is for every woman who’s ever looked in the mirror and wondered, “Am I too broken for intimacy? Too far gone for God’s goodness?” Spoiler alert: You’re not.

The Weight of Hidden Shame

Brittany held her abortion story in silence for years. The weight of that hidden shame? Crippling.

"We know the things we keep hidden actually weigh us down physically and emotionally," she shared. "But walking in the light—there’s freedom there."

Can we just pause and say amen?

We all have things we think disqualify us from joy or intimacy in marriage—past mistakes, abuse, misunderstandings about sex, or being shaped by the silence and shame of purity culture. But God? He’s in the business of turning shame into testimony.

Redeeming the Past, Rewriting the Narrative

When Brittany received a DM from a woman who, after hearing her story, wanted to know Jesus—she wept. And rightfully so. That's the redemptive ripple effect of obedience. Of openness.

Romans 8:28 comes alive here: He works all things together for the good of those who love Him.

Not some things. All things.

Let's Talk About Shame, Sex, and the Enemy's Favorite Lies

Brittany was vulnerable about how her past abortion—and the lies from purity culture—deeply impacted her experience of sex in marriage:

• She often felt like she was doing something wrong, even in the safety of covenant.

• Intimacy triggered fear and shame.

• She believed (as many of us were told) that sexual sin was unforgivable.

Can you relate? Because I sure can.

The enemy loves to weaponize our past. He waits, patiently and manipulatively, for the perfect moment to whisper, “You’re still that girl.” But we serve a Savior who nailed every single accusation to the cross (Colossians 2:14).

So, How Do We Heal?

Here’s what Brittany learned (and what you can, too):

1. Renew Your Mind Daily

“If I don’t start my day with truth, the enemy hijacks it,” she says. Romans 12:2 is key—truth must anchor your thoughts.

2. Educate Yourself with Biblically-Sound Resources
Books like Sheet Music by Dr. Kevin Leman helped her reframe intimacy as God intended—beautiful, mutual, and holy.

3. Speak the Truth Out Loud
Your story might be the spark that draws another woman to Jesus. You don’t need a platform—just obedience.

4. Connect with Your Spouse Beyond the Bedroom
Brittany learned to love her husband through his love language—even when it didn’t come naturally. Holding hands, sitting close, showing up. That’s intimacy, too.

Real Talk on Purity Culture

Both Brittany and I grew up hearing that purity was your worth and sexual sin was the worst kind. The result? Shame that lingered into marriage.

Let me say this boldly: Virginity is not the gospel. Redemption is.

Yes, God’s plan is abstinence before marriage—but your worth is not canceled because you “messed up.” Jesus redeems. Every. Time.

Takeaways for the Woman Wrestling with Her Past

• You are not your worst mistake.

• Shame is a liar, and the cross has the final word.

• God’s design for sex and intimacy is good—and He wants you to experience that in your marriage.

• Healing is possible, and intimacy can be restored.

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Final Word

If you’ve been carrying shame like a second skin, today’s your invitation to lay it down. The cross covers it all. You are seen, loved, and redeemed. Let that truth renew your mind—and your marriage.

Keep talking about the hard stuff, friend. That’s how healing starts. 💛

Breaking Free from Purity Culture: Redefining Intimacy in Christian Marriage with Kingdom Sexuality

When it comes to discussing intimacy in Christian marriages, there’s often a lot of silence and even shame surrounding the subject. But what if we could change that narrative? What if we could embrace God's design for our bodies, our pleasure, and our relationships with the same openness and freedom we have in every other area of our lives?

In today’s episode of the podcast, I sit down with Alana and Tiera from Kingdom Sexuality for a candid conversation about sex and intimacy within marriage. Their mission? To break the silence and provide a safe space for couples to have open conversations about their sexuality.

The Birth of Kingdom Sexuality

Kingdom Sexuality was founded in 2020, inspired by Alana’s personal journey postpartum. She had recently become a mom and realized that even though she couldn’t physically be intimate with her husband at the time, she could use this period to better understand her body and how to improve their sex life once she was able to engage in it again.

But the deeper Alana went into learning about herself and her body, the more she realized that many other women were struggling with similar questions. And so, Kingdom Sexuality was born—an initiative designed to create a safe, shame-free space where married couples could talk about sex openly and without judgment.

Why Open Conversations Matter

One of the most powerful aspects of this conversation with Alana and Tiera is their emphasis on the importance of open communication in marriage. They remind us that having honest discussions about sex is key to unlocking true intimacy and connection.

Alana shares her own struggle with the damaging messages from purity culture, where sex was seen as bad or forbidden until marriage, creating confusion when the "switch" was supposed to flip on their wedding night. "It’s supposed to be amazing," she says. "But no one told me how to navigate that transition, how to communicate about it, or how to understand what intimacy even meant within the context of marriage."

Purity culture, often built on well-meaning intentions, can create a foundation of shame and confusion about sex, making it difficult for couples to talk about their needs, desires, and boundaries. The solution, Alana and Tiera explain, is to break free from these misconceptions and start having conversations about sex—whether it’s with your spouse, your friends, or even with yourself.

Understanding Your Body: The Key to Sexual Confidence

One of the most powerful messages of the episode is that sexual confidence starts with understanding your own body. Tiera, a fertility doula, shares her experiences of helping women understand their menstrual cycles and how often we overlook basic knowledge of our own bodies.

Many women go through life without ever truly exploring their own bodies, and this lack of understanding can impact sexual confidence. Tiera emphasizes that embracing the knowledge of your body, including the parts that are often neglected or misunderstood, can transform your approach to sex and intimacy.

And for women who are "touched out" or overwhelmed by the demands of motherhood, Tiera offers practical advice on how to reset and recharge before engaging in intimacy. From communication to simple acts of care, the episode offers tangible ways to approach touch and intimacy in a way that is both healthy and fulfilling.

The Role of Pleasure in Marriage

Another core theme of the episode is the idea that pleasure is an essential part of a healthy sexual relationship within marriage. Alana and Tiera highlight the importance of women prioritizing their own pleasure in the sexual relationship, something that has often been overlooked or minimized, especially in Christian communities.

Tiera shares a profound insight: “The fact that we have a clitoris and its only function is pleasure shows that God wants us to experience joy and satisfaction in intimacy.” This simple yet powerful truth serves as a reminder that God designed sex to be pleasurable for both partners—not just a duty or chore, but a gift to enjoy together.

When couples approach sex as a means of connection and pleasure rather than just a to-do list, intimacy flourishes. It's about finding a balance between giving and receiving, and realizing that women deserve to enjoy this aspect of their marriage just as much as their husbands.

Practical Tips for Busy Couples

For many couples, especially those with young children, the demands of daily life can make it difficult to prioritize intimacy. However, Alana and Tiera offer some practical tips for busy moms and dads to reconnect and create space for intimacy.

• Communicate openly: One of the first steps in reclaiming intimacy is to talk about it. Whether you’re experiencing mismatched desires or simply feeling disconnected, starting the conversation is key to finding a solution.

• Take time to reset: For women who feel "touched out" or overwhelmed, it’s essential to take some time for self-care before intimacy. Whether it’s taking a walk, enjoying a bath, or asking your spouse to handle some of the family responsibilities, recharging your energy can help you be fully present with your partner.

• Get creative with touch: Alana and Tiera recommend using all five senses to deepen your connection and make intimacy more enjoyable. Experiment with different types of touch, textures, or even locations to break the routine and rediscover the joy of being with your partner.

The Power of Prayer and Renewing Your Mind

Throughout the episode, Alana and Tiera stress the importance of renewing your mind, especially when it comes to challenging old beliefs and embracing a healthier view of sex. As Christians, it’s crucial to remember that God designed us for pleasure, and intimacy is a gift He wants us to enjoy in marriage.

As Michelle shares, “If we’re going to pray about everything else, why wouldn’t we pray about our sex lives, too?” Bringing prayer into the conversation allows couples to center their relationship in God’s love and wisdom, helping them navigate challenges and create a deeper connection.

Closing Thoughts

This episode is a powerful reminder that intimacy and pleasure are an integral part of a healthy marriage. By breaking free from the constraints of purity culture and embracing open conversations, couples can discover the true beauty of God's design for marriage. As Alana and Tiera share, when we prioritize communication, sexual confidence, and mutual pleasure, we can build a marriage that honors God and strengthens our bond with one another.

If you’re ready to dive deeper into these important conversations, be sure to check out Kingdom Sexuality for more resources, and don't forget to listen to this episode for practical advice and encouragement!

Resources:

• Visit Kingdom Sexuality: kingdomsexualityministry.com

• Join the Kingdom Sexuality Podcast Community on Facebook: [Facebook Link]

• Follow Kingdom Sexuality on Instagram: [Instagram Link]

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• Instagram: @kingdomsexuality

• Facebook: Kingdom Sexuality Podcast Community

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Rip It Off – Let's Talk About Sex, Marriage & Biblical Intimacy

Welcome to Rip It Off!

Welcome to Episode 1 of Rip It Off! I’m Michelle Castro—wife, girl mom, and a "good Christian girl" who spent years believing some wrong theology about sex and intimacy. But God opened my eyes, and now I’m here to help other women break free from the same struggles and embrace God’s truth in their marriages.

Did you grow up in the church? Have you heard all the right messages about purity and saving sex for marriage—and yet somehow, you still feel confused, ashamed, or even frustrated when it comes to intimacy in your marriage? You are not alone.

If you’ve ever wrestled with guilt, silence, or unrealistic expectations about sex as a Christian woman—girl, you are in the right place. Rip It Off is where we have real, raw, and redemptive conversations about sex, marriage, and biblical intimacy. No more tiptoeing around the topic—let’s rip off the shame and embrace God’s design for intimacy!

How It All Started

A few years ago, I stumbled upon a podcast that completely shifted my perspective on intimacy in marriage. But let me back up for a second—because before I ever hit play on that first episode, I felt the Lord calling me into something new. I felt Him stirring something inside me, nudging me toward a deeper purpose.

But like Jonah, I ran. And like Gideon, I doubted. I thought I had a better way. I held on tightly to the plan I had already built. I second-guessed His voice and kept trying to do things my own way.

Still, God was patient. He kept pressing in. And eventually, I gave in. that completely shifted my perspective on intimacy in marriage. I had grown up in the church, hearing all about purity and waiting until marriage. But once I got married, I realized something—no one had ever taught me what to do next.

I binged 30 episodes of that podcast in one sitting, and God began to stir something new in me. He called me to be part of this conversation, to create a space where women could find freedom, truth, and healing when it comes to intimacy.

So, here we are. After years of podcasting, I’m starting fresh—with Rip It Off. Because HIS way is always better.

The Heart Behind This Podcast

If you grew up in the church, you probably heard a lot about saving sex for marriage. But what about what comes next? How do you navigate intimacy with joy, confidence, and freedom?

So many Christian women struggle in this area—feeling guilt, confusion, or even disappointment. But here’s the truth:

✔️ God created sex to be GOOD.

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” – Genesis 2:24

✔️ The enemy wants to keep you in bondage.

“The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” – John 10:10

✔️ God goes before you. You are not alone.

“The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” – Deuteronomy 31:8

✔️ Nothing is too hard for God.

“I am the Lord, the God of all mankind. Is anything too hard for me?” – Jeremiah 32:27

It’s time to break free from the lies and shame that have held you back and step into the fullness of what God has for your marriage.

What to Expect on the Podcast

It’s my desire for each episode to feel like we’re just a couple of girlfriends grabbing coffee and having a fun, honest chat—where nothing is off limits and everything is covered in grace.

Each week, we’ll dive into conversations about:

✔️ Overcoming intimacy struggles in marriage

✔️ Navigating sex in a God-honoring way

✔️ Breaking free from shame & embracing pleasure

✔️ Reigniting passion & connection in your marriage

✔️ The intersection of faith, marriage, and intimacy

I’ll be bringing in experts, Christian voices, and real women just like you to share wisdom, encouragement, and practical tools to help you thrive.

But most importantly, Rip It Off is a safe space—a place where we can talk about the things that too many Christian women have been afraid to say out loud.

Join the Conversation

This podcast isn’t just about me—it’s about us. A community of women ready to step into freedom, connection, and joy in their marriages.

Here’s how you can be part of it:

💌 Have a question or topic you want me to cover? DM me on Instagram @ripitoffpodcast or email me at itsmemichellecastro@gmail.com.

🎧 Subscribe so you never miss an episode! New episodes drop every THURSDAY.

💬 If this resonates with you, leave a review! Your reviews help get this message into the hands (and ears) of more women who need to hear it.

▶️ Watch and subscribe on YouTube @itsmemichellecastro for more content and conversations!

☕ Want to support the show? You can now buy me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/itsmemichellecastro—every bit helps keep this message going strong!

Final Words

Friend, God wants MORE for you in your marriage.

Before you go—if this episode encouraged you, would you do me a favor? Take a moment to subscribe, leave a review, and share it on your socials. That simple act helps spread this message to more women who need to hear it. Tag me when you do—I'd love to cheer you on!

More connection. More passion. More freedom.

Together, we’re going to rip off the lies, tear down the shame, and step into the fullness of what He designed for intimacy.

"Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?" – Isaiah 43:18-19

Just like this verse reminds us, God is doing something NEW in your marriage, your intimacy, and your heart. You don’t have to stay stuck in shame or old patterns. There is healing, joy, and freedom on the other side—and girl, it starts now.

Are you ready? Let’s get ripping—tearing off the lies, peeling back the shame, and stepping boldly into the freedom God has for your marriage. Let’s go!

🎧 Listen to Episode 1 now on your favorite podcast platform!

A New Chapter: Saying Goodbye to Consider Jesus (and Hello to Something New)

For a long time, Consider Jesus has been a space for deep conversations about faith, growth, and what it really means to follow Jesus in everyday life. It has been an honor to show up here, to speak words of encouragement, and to walk this journey with you.

But today, I have big news.

This is the final episode of Consider Jesus.

Why the Change?

Over the past few months, I’ve felt a shift happening. God has been stirring something new in me—a calling to go deeper, to be bolder, and to speak even more honestly about the things that hold us back from fully stepping into the life He has for us.

I’ve wrestled with this transition, but here’s what I know: Obedience isn’t always comfortable. Sometimes, it requires us to let go of what’s familiar so we can step into something greater.

That’s why I’m launching a new podcast.

What’s Next?

I’m not spilling all the details here—because I want you to hear it straight from me in this final episode. But let me just say this:

• If you’re tired of hesitating, overthinking, and holding back—this new podcast is for you.

• If you’re craving real talk about faith, courage, and stepping into your calling—this new podcast is for you.

• And if you’ve loved Consider Jesus, I think you’re going to love this next season even more.

Oh, and one more thing—the trailer for the new podcast is already live! So, after you listen to this final episode, go check it out HERE.

Listen to the Final Episode Now!

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Thank you for being part of Consider Jesus. Thank you for showing up, for listening, and for being willing to grow alongside me. This isn’t the end—it’s just the beginning of something even greater.

Are you ready? Let’s do this.

—Michelle